Don’t Get Stuck In A Miserable Marriage: Avoid These Common Mistakes People Make In Choosing A Life Partner

 Choosing a life partner is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. It’s important to choose someone who is compatible with you and with whom you can build a life together. However, many people make mistakes when choosing a life partner. Here are some common mistakes people make when choosing a life partner.

Thinking You Can Fix Them

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“Thinking, “I know this person has flaws, but when we’re married I can help fix them.””

Not Discussing Important Life Issues

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“Not discussing big life issues: your preference for having kids, finances, parenting styles, deep religious beliefs, career aspirations, significant traumas… anything that may affect how you make decisions together later on.”

Choosing Someone You Think You Should Be With

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“Choosing someone they think they should be with instead of someone they’re actually compatible with. A lot of people have a picture in their head of who they think they’ll end up with and chase that ideal, instead of acknowledging their own personality and aiming for someone compatible with that.”

Falling in Love with Being in Love

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“Don’t fall in love with BEING in love.”

“The two of us would admit, years after our divorce, that we pretty much liked each other only because the other one gave us any attention whatsoever. It didn’t matter that we were on different wavelengths on almost everything in life. What mattered was that she gave me the time of day, and I returned that to her. Neither of us had any other romantic prospects, for a long time, so the fact that ANYONE was willing to be in the same room with me was enough for me to say “Let’s spend our lives together”.

Not Discussing Goals and Boundaries

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“Not discussing goals, boundaries, or waiting beyond the honeymoon phase.”

Thinking Physical Attraction is Enough

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“Thinking physical attraction is enough.”

Falling for the Sunk Cost Fallacy

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“They fall for the sunk cost fallacy and assume that because they’ve been together X months or years or whatever, they must be life partners, or that things must move on to the next “stage”. Just because you’ve given someone five years doesn’t mean you owe them another 50.”

Bonus: Having Children Too Soon

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“Having children with them before really getting to know the person. It’s important to know who those children will be exposed to. Many people are on their best behavior early on. And in a short period of time you likely haven’t seen how they handle a difficult situation.”

He Demands His Wife To See A Different Obstetrician After The Doctor Did This

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A man is looking for support for his decision to ask his wife to see another obstetrician after the doctor made unkind remarks towards him.

He Demands His Wife To See A Different Obstetrician After The Doctor Did This

A Woman Wants To Divorce Her Husband After Settling Down And Having A Baby With Him

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It was the picturesque life of a travelling couple that had drawn them together in the first place. For six years, they had spent their marriage indulging in the luxury of visiting exotic places, exploring new cultures, and experiencing adventure together.

A Woman Wants To Divorce Her Husband After Settling Down And Having A Baby With Him

8 Things First Time Moms Purchased That Were Completely Useless Once Baby Arrived

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As any soon-to-be or new parent can attest, there is an overwhelming number of potential baby items to buy. With the proliferation of online stores, baby boutiques, and big-box stores, the choices are seemingly endless.

8 Things First Time Moms Purchased That Were Completely Useless Once Baby Arrived

She Demanded Her Partner To Come To A Pregnancy Scan During Work Hours And This Is What He Did

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A woman is wondering if she was in the wrong for forcing her husband to be at a pregnancy scan while he was busy at work.

She Demanded Her Partner To Come To A Pregnancy Scan During Work Hours And This Is What He Did

Mother of 8 Month Old Regrets Wasting Time Exclusively Pumping

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One woman regrets obsessing about pumping instead of spending her time making memories with her newborn.

Mother of 8 Month Old Regrets Wasting Time Exclusively Pumping

This post was inspired by the internet and does not necessarily reflect the views of Arnie Nicola.

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