Ridiculous Requests: Her Mother Insists On Bringing Boyfriend To The Hospital When She Gives Birth
Expecting a child is a joyous occasion, but it can also be stressful for new parents. One of the most important decisions new parents will make is who will be present during the birth of their child. One mother-to-be is facing a difficult decision regarding her mother’s request to bring her boyfriend to the hospital.
The Backstory
A woman, who we’ll call ‘Emma’, is expecting her first child.
“I am expecting my first child in a little over a month. My mom wanted to fly out and be here for the birth and to be at the hospital with me. My dad died 11 months ago and three months ago mom told me she had started seeing someone.”
Emma Surprised That Her Mom Is Dating
“It was a little bit of a surprise but I told mom if she was happy I would be happy for her, but asked her to give me some time before trying to include him with me. She hesitated before saying yes and I know she was likely disappointed that I didn’t want him included right away.”
The Dilemma
Emma had previously asked her mother to give her some time before introducing her new boyfriend into her life. However, when her mother suggested bringing him to the hospital for the birth of her grandchild, Emma drew the line. She expressed her discomfort with having her mother’s boyfriend present during such a vulnerable time and suggested introducing him during a future get-together.
The Fallout
Emma’s decision did not sit well with her mother, who threatened to stay in a hotel with her boyfriend and still attend the hospital. Emma stood her ground and informed her mother that she would not be welcome if she brought her boyfriend to the hospital. Emma’s mother accused her of denying her the chance to meet her grandchild. She also guilted Emma about her future relationship with her boyfriend.
The Support
Emma received support from her grandfather and aunt, who agreed with her decision. Her mother, on the other hand, felt that nobody was happy for her chasing her happiness again.
Emma said, “After speaking to me she [Emma’s mother] talked to my grandpa and my aunt who are her dad and sister and they sided with me and said mom should understand where I am at with this. I woke up this morning to a text from her that everyone was on my side and she guesses nobody is actually happy for her chasing her happiness again.”
Others Weigh In
Emma received further support from commenters on the post. One commenter stated, “Your mom needs to respect your boundaries. The baby won’t know who was there when they were born.” Another commenter emphasized the importance of the mother’s decision, stating, “Any post that involves ‘asking if they are in the wrong for not letting someone be in the room at the birth’ is a no, it’s your body, your baby, what you say literally goes in terms of who gets to be there outside of necessary staff.”
The Mother’s Selfishness
Another commenter pointed out the mother’s selfishness in trying to make the birth about her and her boyfriend. They stated, “Your mum is trying to make this birth about her, when in reality this process is about you, your partner and the baby.” The commenter went on to explain that the mother’s behavior was inappropriate and that Emma had every right to make the decision that she did.
The Stranger in the Hospital
One commenter reminded Emma that her mother’s boyfriend was essentially a stranger to her. They stated, “Forget potential grandpa, this man is at the moment basically a stranger to you.”
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