13 Times People Instantly Lost Interest In The Person They Were Attracted To
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Attraction is a complex and multifaceted emotion. Sometimes, we can be attracted to someone, but as we get to know them better, that attraction fades away. In this listicle, we share some of the reasons why real people lost interest in the person they were once attracted to.
Unhappiness and Meanness
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“Getting to know them. They were a pretty unhappy and generally mean person inside. Once I saw how they treated others while demanding they be treated much better by everyone, the attraction was gone.”
Discovering that the person you’re attracted to is unhappy or mean can be a major turn-off and cause you to lose interest.
Lack of Intelligence
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“Bless his heart, he was dumb as a stump.”
If someone is not intellectually stimulating, it can be a major factor in losing attraction.
Cheating and Lack of Accountability
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“A woman saying ‘I’ve cheated on everyone I’ve ever been in a relationship with.'”
Discovering that someone has cheated on their previous partners or lacks accountability can be a major red flag and cause you to lose interest.
No Self Awareness
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“Absolutely zero interest or ability to recognize their part in a conflict. Completely unable to take responsibility for their mistakes and turning to emotional abuse to deflect accountability.”
Lack of Interest
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“Lack of interest in his end. I’m no chaser”
If someone is not interested in your life or doesn’t show interest in your needs and desires, it can cause you to lose attraction and feel unimportant.
Lack of Support
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“He didn’t have my back during an extremely stressful situation and I instantly fell out of love.”
If someone doesn’t support you during difficult times, it can cause you to lose attraction and feel unsupported.
Pity Party
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“It’s was always a pity party. He showed no will to improve himself and that pretty much killed any sexual attraction. Eventually the relationship fell apart.”
If someone shows no will to improve themselves, it can cause you to lose attraction and feel frustrated.
Disinterest
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“Being ignored for long periods of time. Always being the one initiating conversations. Rarely getting the time of day. All of this shows disinterest and I hate that he won’t just come out and say it.”
If someone shows disinterest and ignores you for long periods of time, it can cause you to lose attraction and feel unimportant.
Discovering the Reality
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“Discovering that I wasn’t really attracted to her; I was attracted to the idealised fantasy in my mind that I imagined her to be.”
If someone doesn’t live up to the idealized fantasy in your mind or doesn’t match your expectations, it can cause you to lose attraction and feel disappointed.
Hypocrisy
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“I had an acquired disability that may be hereditary (keratoconus). The girl I was seeing looked disgusted when I explained what it was. She mentioned that she wasn’t sure if she wanted my genetics if we were to have kids. She had a gall bladder and tumours removed from her breasts within the previous 12 months so I found it hypocritical, and I loathe hypocrisy.”
Offensive Behavior
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“I had a guy invite me to see him do stand up at an open mic night. He proceeded to tell a bunch of “jokes” that were insanely racist and homophobic that weren’t even vaguely funny. He then proceeded to get mad that people have no sense of humor and I was horrified to be sitting with him at the club until I could come up with an excuse to leave.”
Lack of Personal Values
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“Would do or say literally anything to win approval from her parents. She had none of her own firm beliefs or values — just whatever she thought they’d want her to do or say.”
Laughing At You
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“This is really petty compared to other stuff here, but I showed her a song that I really liked. She laughed at it, like I had made a joke. I instantly had no feelings for her anymore, it was weird.”
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