One person said, "My parents and their cohort friends just seem overly concerned with boundary setting and their own self-interests in grandparenting as opposed to helping raise and nurture their grandchildren.
Another share a perspective from the grandparents' side. "I have seen a lot of people talking about grandparents' 'involvement', when they mean they want every drop of the grandparents free time devoted to the grandkids.
Another made a good point about how much time grandparents' have to devote to grandkids. "My in-laws are retired, my Dad isn't, so they have much more time to devote to their grandkids.