Is it tacky to throw your own baby shower? A new mom-to-be wants to take matters in her own hands.
As an expectant mother living across the country from her family, a dilemma arises when it comes to planning a baby shower. In a Reddit post, the mother-to-be asks for opinions on throwing a co-ed baby BBQ in lieu of a traditional baby shower. She explains her predicament, “I’m a planner by nature. I also happen to live across the country from my mom and my sisters who would typically be the people to throw a baby shower, I would think.”
The idea of a co-ed baby BBQ is not a new one, but the question of whether it is tacky or not persists. The expectant mother is aware of this and seeks advice from the forum. She wonders, “I’ve heard it’s seen as tacky/gift-grabby to throw your own shower. But I was hoping maybe this would somehow be a bit different? Or is it less tacky to ask my friend to be the one to send out invites to it?”
The mother-to-be hopes that her idea will be well-received, especially since no one has offered to throw a shower for her yet. “So far no one has stepped up to offer to throw one for us, which is honestly kind of a bummer,” she confesses.
Others Weigh In
Some commenters on the forum expressed their support for the idea of a co-ed baby BBQ. One commenter wrote, “I don’t think it’s tacky, especially since no one offered to throw you a shower. I’ve been to many showers at the mom-to-be’s home, especially if they have a good set-up for entertaining. If you are concerned, just have a friend handle the RSVPs, that’s the only thing people might notice.”
Another shared, “I have only been to showers like this lol.”
Another commenter encouraged the expectant mother to go for it, saying, “I think it’s pretty normal to host your own baby shower these days, I say go for it.”
Similarly, someone else shared their own positive experience, “Do it, I threw my own baby shower. It was a casual afternoon friends and family co-ed catch up. Not tacky feeling and a nice way to celebrate with people I liked, much like a casual birthday bash.”
One commenter shared their own personal reasons for planning their own celebration, “I’m 8 months pregnant. I’m planning my own celebration. Why? Because I’m the planner amongst my friends/family. I’m literally always the one to plan events, parties, etc. I’m anxious by nature and I don’t really trust people to execute stuff well or on time based on past experiences.”
While the idea of throwing a co-ed baby BBQ may be seen as tacky by some, there are many who support the idea, especially in the context of the expectant mother living far from her family and friends. As long as the invitation clearly states that gifts are not expected and the event is simply a celebration of the new arrival, there should be no issue with throwing the event. Ultimately, the most important thing is to enjoy the celebration with loved ones and welcome the new addition to the family.
Would you throw your own baby shower?