A woman refuses to share the gender of her unborn child to her husband because of his attitude.
It’s not unusual for couples to have different opinions when it comes to their unborn child. However, when one partner consistently refuses to attend doctor’s appointments, as was the case with this couple, it can cause a lot of tension.
He Refuses To Come To Doctor Appointments
In this case, the husband was supposed to attend the gender reveal appointment, but instead chose to eat out with his friends. As the wife states, “He was supposed to come with me for the baby’s gender reveal appointment but he chose to not come last minute because his friend invited him to a fish ‘n’ chips meal.
The wife was understandably upset and refused to tell the husband the gender of the baby. She said, “He texted asking me to tell him the results (boy or girl) but I refused to tell him. He kept spam calling me but I hung up each time. He came home fuming demanding I tell him the results but I refused and bluntly told him that since he refused to attend the appointment, he gets no results [until] after the baby’s born.”
Disagreements between the husband and wife is not uncommon among couples expecting a baby. However, in this case, the wife felt her husband’s refusal to attend the doctor’s appointment was unacceptable and refused to give him the results.
Others Weigh In
The situation between the wife and husband has garnered support for the wife, with many criticizing the husband’s behavior. As one commenter stated, “Already a deadbeat dad before the baby is even born.”
Another individual agreed, saying, “He’s literally prioritizing fish n chips over his unborn baby. Is this really who you want to raise a child with?”.
There were fears that the husband’s behavior would be detrimental to the child’s upbringing, with one commenter saying, “If he’s telling you “I’m not carrying the baby why do I have to go to the doctor with you” that’s going to turn into “I didn’t push out that baby, why should I look after it,” real quick.”
Another commenter shared their personal experience and regret in a similar situation, saying, “My ex pulled this with our second child, and I caved and told him. I shouldn’t have. You need to seriously reconsider this relationship. He’s showing you that he and his friends are more important than you and the baby. He sees going to appointments with you as punishment, not as a chance to make sure you and the baby are healthy. Don’t be like me and stay until he leaves you for another woman.”
Finally, one commenter made the point that the husband’s attitude was selfish and hypocritical. He said, “If he wants to be present at the birth, tell him, ‘You’re not the one delivering the baby, why should you have to be there?'”
It is clear from the comments that many people are not happy with the husband’s behavior. The wife’s decision to withhold the gender of their unborn child has been met with approval. This case raises an important discussion about the responsibility of the father in the pregnancy journey, and what the appropriate response should be when one partner refuses to attend important appointments.
What do you think? Was OP wrong for withholding the gender of their baby from her husband?