She Would Rather See Her Boyfriend Than Witness Her Sister Giving Birth – Is She Being Selfish?

One woman admits that she would rather see her boyfriend instead of being at the delivery room when her sister gives birth.

Balancing personal desires with familial responsibilities can be a daunting task. This dilemma is particularly challenging when a loved one’s significant life event coincides with one’s own long-awaited personal plan. Such is the plight of a woman we’ll call Jane who recently had this dilemma.

Sister Is Expecting To Deliver Soon

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Jane is excited about her sister’s upcoming delivery but is also eager to see her long-distance partner overseas.

Jane, who identifies as her sister’s best friend and only sister, is struggling to make a choice between being present for the delivery and going on her trip. She says, “I really miss him and really want to go, I’m willing to change the flight, but [to be honest] I don’t want to. She wants me to be in the delivery room, and I want to be there, but I want to see my partner more than seeing the birth…”

Financial Constraints

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The situation is further complicated by financial constraints. Jane has already spent thousands of dollars on her sister’s previous life events, including planning a bachelorette party, a wedding in Europe, and a baby shower. She is also expected to attend a christening overseas, which will add up to her expenses.

“I stupidly didn’t get a ticket that was changeable for dates. I COULD pay for a new plane ticket, but the thing is my sister has many life events that have cost me thousands already, a destination bachelorette party I planned for her, a wedding in Europe, baby shower I planned, and she wants me to go overseas for a christening,” Jane laments.

Painful Past

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To make matters worse, Jane has a personal history that makes her uncomfortable with the idea of being present in the delivery room. She says, “I had a really traumatic and painful abortion, and I have issues with OBGYNs and [intimate] stuff. That’s something I’m still working through.”

Jane’s Sister Is Upset

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Jane’s sister is understandably upset by her response. She wants her sister to be present for the delivery but is willing to compromise and let her attend the christening instead. However, Jane’s decision has left her sister in tears, as she feels let down by her best friend and sister.

Jane’s True Sentiment

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“I just would rather not be there for the delivery if I have to choose between that and going on my trip. I WANT to see the baby so bad! But with everything considered, I feel like I want to go see my boyfriend instead of seeing the labor part. I want to take a break from everything,” said Jane.

Others Sympathize With Jane

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Some people sympathize with Jane’s predicament. One person said, “I was about to say [you’re being inconsiderate], and then I read that your sister had an overseas wedding, wants an overseas christening and had a destination Bachelorette party that I’m assuming you had to pay to go to. That’s a lot.”

Others Suggest Compromise

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Others suggest a compromise as they express concern about the sister’s well-being during delivery. A person also said, “Does she have other people to support her during the birth? Is her partner present?”

Some Tell Her To Prioritize Sister

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However, some commenters believe that Jane should prioritize her sister’s needs over her own desires. One person said, “It’s understandable that you have conflicting feelings about this situation, but in this scenario, it would be best for you to prioritize your sister’s needs over your own desires.”

Another agreed, saying, “It’s not unreasonable for your sister to want you to be there for the birth of her first child, and it would be a significant moment for your family that you may regret missing.”

“Hopefully, [you guys] can have a talk, tell her how much you love her, and discuss how you can support her in other ways.”

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